Relational Hospitality
No stranger had to spend the night in the street, for my door was always open to the traveler (Job 31:32)
The Lewis Center on Church Leadership that is housed in the campus of Wesley Theological Seminary in Washington DC produced an article on hospitality that provides a simple model and acronym to use to welcome people into the church. Ken Vaters shared the article that outlines the four simple steps to become an even friendlier church—Greet, Introduce, Follow-Up and Thank. Vaters notes that “By encouraging intentional, simple actions like greeting newcomers and following up, churches can build genuine relationships and make visitors feel welcome, leading to lasting connections and a more welcoming church culture.”
What was most notable about the friendliest church you’ve ever encountered? Churches are often known for the physical characteristics of the building, the music or the minister. Some think of other institutions such as hotels, museums or restaurants as being exemplars of hospitality. One of the defining qualities of coffee houses was the intense feeling of welcome that made customers not only want to stay longer, it made them eager to return. From the friendly barristers to the cozy ambiance, these spaces were not just places to purchase a cup of coffee, they were known as inviting places to gather with friends, to enjoy leisure reading and/or a trendy, popular location.
It was noted that Job was so dedicated to the ideal of providing hospitality that he not only positioned his home by a busy road that was frequented by travelers, his home was built so that the entrance to the guest rooms were positioned nearest the road and cords were placed along the road to help direct travelers to his home. Job hoped to provide a model of hospitality that would be the source of inspiration for others. Coffee and breakfast (or dinner) would be provided for the traveling stranger who was passing through. As the coffeehouses continued to evolve, the meals and beverages were accompanied by conversation that some even described as preaching.
While the food, coffee and conversation may have seemed to have evolved naturally, it is the content of the conversation that would be described as preaching that is of particular interest. Generous, exceptional hospitality is a critical hallmark of a coffeehouse. However, the purpose of the hospitality is the creation of life-changing relationships. Hospitality is exhibited in many ways alongside the other key elements of a vital congregation. Unfortunately, Vaters notes “It can be easier to find a church that preaches the Bible, has solid worship music, and offers excellent childcare than it is to find a church where we can make genuine, lasting friendships.”
The recent conversations around the church about hospitality and discipleship extend the exploration of the ways the intentional discipleship system discussed by the visioning team can be developed and implemented. There are some aspects of disciple-making that are intimidating and other aspects that are unclear. Over the next few weeks, we will introduce additional resources related to discipleship and hospitality. We are eager to exchange ideas and discuss strategies. Hopefully, you’re looking forward to the upcoming worship services and classes to learn even more. We are looking forward to seeing you!
In Christ,
Jon McCoy
